101 in Never Gonna Happen

Hot damn was I excited about 101 in 1001 when I started (which apparently is a post I wrote on an old blog). And OMG did March 23, 2013 sound soooo far away! Now with 68 days left, I’m 68% complete. Well, 101 in 1001, GFY!

A few weeks ago, I realized #48 “share a magical NYE midnight kiss” was not going to happen. I figured with three shots, it was a given. While my New Year’s Eves have gotten progressively better, none of them have involved a certain someone special.

Maybe I’ll meet him this year. Maybe not only before March 23, but before the ONE day of rain we’re likely to have in the desert between now and then so I can cross off #74 “kiss in the rain.” WTF is that? I blame growing up on Dawson’s Creek.

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So, what’s a girl to do? A 68-day blitz spent running around doing silly things that were important to 26-year-old me? A new list? A newfound disregard for all things list-like? Yeah right. But, I think I’m just going to stick with my resolutions for now.

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NYResolutions?!

Okay, so I saw New Year’s Eve last night.  It was a fun little date night.  I was concerned the movie was going to be a Valentine’s Day disaster, seeing as how it was the same director and concept, but it was fun and (mostly) happy and had me smiling the whole way through.

One of the plot lines is about a dowdy Michelle Pfeiffer spending the day trying to accomplish the resolutions she set for herself the year before so naturally, I started panicking about mine.  I don’t believe there’s been a year when I’ve actually accomplished everything I set out to do, which I might take into consideration as I think about my resolutions for next year!

Here’s what I wanted to do, what I did, didn’t do, what I still might have time to do and what I can’t believe I thought I wanted to do.

Read one fiction and one non-fiction book every month. I might have read 10 books in all?!  And definitely slacked on the nonfic.

Eat more veggies. Get creative and try new things. I think I did okay with this, but could have done better. 

Stick to a two-drink limit if I even want to drink at all. I can think of ONE instance in which I had a never again night this year, but I did well sticking to a limit as well as choosing to not drink out of habit or (sad to say at 27) peer pressure and just sticking to water if that’s what I wanted.

Downsize. Live simply. Donate things I don’t use (monthly) and don’t buy crap.  There was a definite spending freeze throughout the year and I didn’t buy too much crap.  I didn’t donate monthly, but did downsize and donate throughout the year.

Lose 10 pounds before the fall weddings.  Not sure where I was at when I made the resolution, but by October I was 115, which is about five under what I consider to be “my” weight and I was very happy with that.

Complete 60 things total on my 101 list.  I’m at 58 and have a few things I could maybe do in the next week and a half.

Climb the seven summits of Phoenix in seven days. Totally did!

Earn $3000 side income, personal training, writing, whatever. Absolute fail.

Build a $1290 wedding fund for bridesmaid expenses (yes, I realize NOW that it’s a stupid number, but it’s what my twisted math came up with). Contribute $50 a month + gifts.  Saved it and spent it guilt free when I needed to!

Spend less time with social media and more time with society. I did unplug, but not necessarily to make more genuine connections unfortunately

Write six short stories. Another absolute fail.

Write girl side of dating book and begin collaboration.  Ugh.  Fail.

Contribute to a Roth IRA…and 401(k) if company restarts match program.  Not to the extent I’d like, but yes, I did these.

Complete my eight-month emergency fund and leave it untouched in my MMA.  Nope! But, I settled on a five-month fund and it’s waiting to be called up to do it’s job and I’m crossing my fingers my e-day doesn’t come!

Make and follow a budget each month (< $2000/month or $24000/year).  Hmm, not so much.  This was tough, but I did made budgets and kinda sorta stick to them monthly.

Make and follow a training schedule each month. Rocked this one for most of the year.  The times I didn’t have races to train for was a little more difficult, but I’m really happy with my motivation to workout, my effort during my workouts and the effects those have had on my body this year!

Honor my appointments with myself. Put myself first as often as I want.  Definitely did better with this this year too.

Overpay on student loans (by more than $5, smart girl) to get below $11000 before the end of the year.  I overpaid, but am not under $11k, although it’s less that $120 away!

Pay off my CC each month, if I use it at all.  Great at first, not so good recently.

Hang out in Starbucks and Barnes & Noble and look approachable so as to be hit on.  Nope.  I met all of one guy quasi-organically.

Look presentable anytime I leave the house.  Oh goodness no.  Anyone who says having a dog is a good way to meet attractive strangers was obviously never at the mercy of a tiny, little puppy’s tiny, little bladder.  I have left the house in very questionable get ups recently.

Don’t waste more than one date on a bad prospect. Future me says so.  Did better, but definitely let a few quasi-relationships go on past the point where I knew it should end (ahem Rebel and married guy).

Try a new dating site.  I did eHarmony and Match, both were new to me and marked my official entrance into the “paying for online dating” world.  My vote is for Match, but not a huge fan of the sites in general.

Leave the baggage in the past. Leave exes in the past. Look forward. Um…

Say yes more. Say no more.  Yes and yes.

Go all in. Finish hard, finish strong – fitness, life, love, everything. I did it pretty big this year and went all in way more than I ever have.

Holy crap, I had a lot of goals.  I’m a chronic resolution/goal/intention setter.  Can’t stop this train.  There’s always next year!

Fire Up For Fall The End

My Fire Up For Fall goals and results:

1. Go to yoga in the park at least once.
1.2 Do one good thing (at least)!
2. Decorate two rooms.
2.2 Make at least two meals for the week type meals on Sundays. (1/2)
3. Do three 101 things. (3/3)
3.2 Read three books. (2/3)
4. Save $400. ($400/$400)
4.2 Do four friend things. (4/4)
5. Go for an evening walk at least five times. (5/5)
5.2 Spend five hours a week writing or working on my side business. (7 weeks/10 weeks)

Eek.  I got a 60%!  The last time I got a score that low was 9th grade geometry and I cried.  But, I’m not crying now.  I enjoyed the last ten weeks.  

I didn’t really throw anything new in the mix that I probably wouldn’t have done anyway, so I feel like I didn’t challenge myself enough.  However, the second question asked each week, what have you done to make yourself feel fabulous, was a nice weekly reminder that although the last few weeks have been tough, there were good things that deserved to be mentioned and celebrated.  Thanks, Rebecca, for hosting this challenge!

I’m a little sad the next challenge isn’t until 2012, but I still plan for the rest of my 2011 to be filled with doing good things, saving money, taking evening walks, spending time with friends and reading delicious books (after struggling with Chasing Harry Winston for most of the challenge, I threw up my white flag and switched to The Midwife’s Confession and OMG, Diane Chamberlain is my new fave).

Fire Up For Fall Week 9

My Fire Up For Fall goals and progress:

1. Go to yoga in the park at least once.
1.2 Do one good thing (at least)!
2. Decorate two rooms.
2.2 Make at least two meals for the week type meals on Sundays. (1/2)
3. Do three 101 things. (3/3)
3.2 Read three books. (1/3)
4. Save $400. ($400/$400)
4.2 Do four friend things. (4/4)
5. Go for an evening walk at least five times. (5/5)
5.2 Spend five hours a week writing or working on my side business. (7 weeks/10 weeks)

1. What have you done this week to help you achieve your goals?

I did a few good things this week…nothing huge, but those little acts of kindness that I’m normally too shy to step up and do. 

I read more than I have been, but am still struggling with finishing book #2.  Perhaps I need to read something NOT about relationships right now.

2. What have you done to make yourself feel fabulous?

I went out.  I don’t go out often, but I knew I needed a shake up in my weekend routine (of yoga and running and watching TV and going to bed at 9 and not really talking to human beings for the majority of it).  In an attempt to really do something different and unfunk, I straightened my hair.  I liked how it looked, but I liked even more that after two days, I was like, “this isn’t me” and am happy to be back to a curly girl.

3. What is the most positive thing you’ve taken away from this challenge?

This is going to sound shallow, but it hasn’t been a super life changing challenge, probably because of my goals, so I’m just going to say that I found out I really like the yoga in the park classes and kind of got over my fear of going to them, which is nice.

4. It’s your last week, the run to the finish, what is your priority?

I’d like to at least finish another book, so I’m going to be mindful of the stupid TV I watch and use the time to read instead.  I also want to finish my dinner goal.  Sunday is my mom’s birthday, so I might have to make a big dinner Saturday or something, but either way, I’ll make a point to make a meal with leftovers.

5. Fun Stuff: Desert Island, you can take 1 person, 1 famous person and 3 items besides food and water. Who and What do you take?

I guess I’d take Lucky because on a desert island, family issues wouldn’t matter.  I’d totally take Oprah and I’d take a notebook, a pen and sunscreen, haha.  Sounds like a lovely little vacay, actually…sign me up!

Fire Up For Fall Week 8

Week 8?!

My Fire Up For Fall goals and progress:

1. Go to yoga in the park at least once.
1.2 Do one good thing (at least)!
2. Decorate two rooms.
2.2 Make at least two meals for the week type meals on Sundays. (1/2)
3. Do three 101 things. (3/3)
3.2 Read three books. (1/3)
4. Save $400. ($400/$400)
4.2 Do four friend things. (4/4)
5. Go for an evening walk at least five times. (5/5)
5.2 Spend five hours a week writing or working on my side business. (7 weeks/10 weeks)

1. What have you done this week to help you achieve your goals?

I decorated my bedroom a bit, but I definitely realize it’s a process to feel like an entire room is fully decorated!

I got a puppy(!), so we went for quite a few evening walks, finishing that goal.

I’ve slacked on the writing/side business.  I really contemplated NaNoWriMo, but could not feel inspired in the first few days of the month.

2. What have you done to make yourself feel fabulous?

I’ve been in a slump, so I made a list of things I could do to make myself feel better and have started doing some of them – from little things like look good when I leave the house and don’t hit snooze to eat healthy and see friends.

3. How important is a social life to you? Are you a loner or a butterfly or somewhere in between?

It’s pretty important to me, but I’m a bit of a lone wolf (sounds much nicer than loner) and I know I don’t make as much effort to have a social life as I should and my social life tends to reflect that.

4. How do you balance life outside your home with healthy living?

I used to struggle with this, like if a social opportunity came up, I’d dump my workouts or going out to eat was a special occasion, so I would eat extravagantly. But, having race goals to work toward and training plans to follow, I’m much better at keeping those commitments to myself and working in the social aspects around it.  Also, I’ve learned to eat out however I want, which is usually not too big of a meal and something healthy.  It helps me not feel guilty if sometimes I want something a little more indulgent.

5. What do you like to do for fun?

I kind of hate this question, I guess because it’s ALWAYS a top question when online dating and it gets old answering it and I feel like a bit of a freak for always saying workout!  Beyond that, I like getting out to community events or going to happy hours in terms of social things.

101 Check In

So, I did my math wrong and was convinced today was the halfway point of my 101 in 1001 challenge. Close, but no cigar. Either way, I’m doing an update.

According to my official checklist at the Day Zero Project, I have 506 days left and…drumroll please…I have completed 55% of the items on my list!  I scanned through it this morning and here are some highlights:

Things that are intimidating me even though I have 506 days left to complete them:
Travel out of the country.
Write a novel.
Sing karaoke.
Vlog.
Learn conversational Spanish.

Things I want to do again:
Have sex in public.
Complete a triathlon

Things I did just because they were on the list:
Become a personal trainer.
Make bread pudding.
Eat at Pizzeria Bianco.

Things that I thought I could pull off for 1001 days but that I  suck at:
Don’t text while driving.
Don’t dye my hair.
Find a job I love.
Build an eight-month emergency fund.
Make a photo album of pics taken during the 1001 days.

Things on the list that make me sad:
Plan a great bachelorette party/wedding shower/pre-wedding day for my sister.
Share a magical NYE kiss.
Go to a shooting range with my family.
Go to the driving range with my dad.

Things I am super excited about:
Make sushi.
Learn to surf.
Take a pole dancing class.
Go to a gay bar.

Things that are most likely to remain un-crossed-off:
Tie between Go to the driving range with my dad and Help someone achieve their weight loss goal.

Things that will very likely happen before the end of the year:
Adopt a pet.
Learn to SUP.
Go to a gay bar.
Play hooky.

So much has changed in the last 495 days.  It’s hard to even remember who I was when I made the list.  I guess it’s a nice reminder that this too shall pass.

Do you have a list?  Did you have the same excitement when you started it but feel your enthusiasm wane a bit as the days moved forward?

Fire Up For Fall Week 7

My Fire Up For Fall goals and progress:

1. Go to yoga in the park at least once.
1.2 Do one good thing (at least)!
2. Decorate two rooms.
2.2 Make at least two meals for the week type meals on Sundays. (1/2)
3. Do three 101 things. (3/3)
3.2 Read three books. (1/3)
4. Save $400. ($400/$400)
4.2 Do four friend things. (4/4)
5. Go for an evening walk at least five times. (3/5)
5.2 Spend five hours a week writing or working on my side business. (7 weeks/10 weeks)

1. What have you done this week to help you achieve your goals?

I saved $150 from my EOM paycheck to finish my savings goal.

When I walked into my condo after being gone all weekend I got really depressed that it’s so bare, so my motivation to decorate is kicking in, that’s a step there!

I went to my friend’s wedding and it was a whole friend weekend (and gosh did I need it), finishing up my four friend things.

I took an evening walk after the rehearsal dinner.  It actually felt like fall and was lovely.

I wrote a little while I was traveling, not sure it was five hours, but it was something.

2. What have you done to make yourself feel fabulous?

I let myself be on vacation – mentally as well as physically and I definitely needed that.  I stopped worrying and future-thinking and fat-talking myself in many ways that I had been lately.  I was surrounded by good friends and I just had fun.  Obviously the weekend away also helped me make progress on my goals!

3. How do you pull yourself out of a slump or prevent yourself falling in to one?

I fake it til I make it.  If it’s a workout slump, I make myself put in the workouts even if I’m not feeling it until I am actually motivated again. If it’s a life funk in general, I make a point to dress up to feel good about myself until it reflects on the inside as well. To prevent a workout slump, I try to schedule a variety of workouts so I don’t feel bummed that I’m going to run every day or whatever.

4. Are you naturally positive or do you have to work at it? How do you keep yourself positive?

I am generally positive.  If I’m having a feeling sorry for myself moment or feeling pessimistic, I can usually look at the bigger picture and see that things in general are still pretty good and whatever little thing is bugging me will pass.

5. I’m on Holiday right now, if you could go away anywhere tomorrow (and work wouldn’t get weird) where would you go?

I am craving (and half-planning) a trip to Belize for surfing and yoga, I would definitely jet there to refresh!

Fire Up For Fall Week 6

My Fire Up For Fall goals and progress:

1. Go to yoga in the park at least once.
1.2 Do one good thing (at least)!
2. Decorate two rooms.
2.2 Make at least two meals for the week type meals on Sundays. (1/2)
3. Do three 101 things. (3/3)
3.2 Read three books. (1/3)
4. Save $400. ($250/$400)
4.2 Do four friend things. (3/4)
5. Go for an evening walk at least five times. (2/5)
5.2 Spend five hours a week writing or working on my side business. (6 weeks/10 weeks)

1. What have you done this week to help you achieve your goals?

I went to yoga in the park on a hotel rooftop pool deck. 

I finished one book (about raising a dog…if I don’t get one soon, I might burst and I want to do it right)!

I finished the preliminary work I set out to do on Lucky’s website.  Obviously, I still support him and want him to do well, so I was really excited to work with him on this, but as of right now, I’m not sure where the business part of our relationship is going to settle (along with every other part of the relationship).

2. What have you done to make yourself feel fabulous?

I spent Sunday lounging.  Keep in mind, lounging to me means hiking in the morning, but then comfy clothes, watching football, reading, not staring at the computer, a little bit of cooking and baking.  Glorious.

 3. Do you listen to music when you work out? What gets you fired up?

Both my iPods were dead this morning and it was the worst! I love girl power songs (like Kelly Clarkson) and also some rap gets me going (like Miss New Booty)!

4. What’s your guilty pleasure music? How does it make you feel?

I guess I’d say Britney Spears.  I’ve been a fan since day one and through the crazy phrase.  Her songs make me feel fun and sexy.

5. If today were a song what song would it be?

I’d pick something moody and bluesy, but it’s such a sunny, pretty day and things with Lucky are overall happy right now, so I just don’t know.

Fire Up For Fall Week 5

My Fire Up For Fall goals and progress:

1. Go to yoga in the park at least once.
1.2 Do one good thing (at least)!
2. Decorate two rooms.
2.2 Make at least two meals for the week type meals on Sundays. (1/2)
3. Do three 101 things. (3/3)
3.2 Read three books.
4. Save $400. ($250/$400)
4.2 Do four friend things. (3/4)
5. Go for an evening walk at least five times. (2/5)
5.2 Spend five hours a week writing or working on my side business. (5 weeks/10 weeks)

1. What have you done this week to help you achieve your goals?

I got paid and put $50 into savings right away.

I did quite a few social, friend things last week around the wedding, but I’m counting it as one.

I went for a night time walk last week with my two favorite guys – Lucky and his pup!

I worked on Lucky’s website early last week to get it out of the way before the madness.

2. What have you done to make yourself feel fabulous?

I made time to work out amidst the wedding mania.

3. It’s half way through the challenge, you can change 1 or more of your goals (max of 3) if you want to….what are you going to do and why?

I’m going to not expect myself to decorate two rooms.  Since moving in about a month ago, I ate up my house budget and it’s very exciting to get everything done, but I’d rather be responsible about it and save some more “home money” before spending it.

4. What’s your worst bad habit and have you ever tried to tackle it? Do you want to?

I switched from biting my nails to ripping at my cuticles, specifically on my right thumb.  It always looks bad and I’d love to stop, but I haven’t quite tackled it yet.

Fire Up For Fall Week 4

My Fire Up For Fall goals and progress:

1. Go to yoga in the park at least once.
1.2 Do one good thing (at least)!
2. Decorate two rooms.
2.2 Make at least two meals for the week type meals on Sundays. (1/2)
3. Do three 101 things. (3/3)
3.2 Read three books.
4. Save $400. ($200/$400)
4.2 Do four friend things. (2/4)
5. Go for an evening walk at least five times. (1/5)
5.2 Spend five hours a week writing or working on my side business. (4 weeks/10 weeks)

1. What have you done this week to help you achieve your goals?

I did two things on my 101 list, completing that goal. I got a Brazilian wax.  TMI?  Probably.  I also went to Oktoberfest and ate festival food (it was on the list, don’t ask).

I went to Oktoberfest with some girlfriends I haven’t seen since July, so that’s another friend thing!

I worked on Lucky’s and my own marketing plans for more than five hours last week.

2.  What have you done to make yourself feel fabulous?

I’d say the wax.  It was my first and although it didn’t feel fabulous during, I really like it and have felt quite womanly (ironic?) and sexy since. 

3. What is your go to food or activity when you’ve had a bad day?

I have a few different coping mechanisms, depending on the kind of bad day it was.  Anything from brie and french bread to chocolate, chocolate, chocolate or running or yoga to just going to bed (even if it’s like 7)!

      4. What’s the last thing you did that you were really proud of?

My triathlon. It’s something I wanted to do for a while and I trained for three months.  I was very proud to run across the finish line!

5. Fun Time:  What was your favorite school subject, and your least favorite? Why?

I usually like my English classes because I liked to read and write.  I cried over math way too many times and never wanted to go.  It just overwhelmed me.

Positive image of the week:

Can’t stop listening to Adele’s 21.  Here’s one of her lyrics that been inspiring me lately.

 
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