This weekend I committed a cardinal sin of friendship. I set up my girlfriend on the basis of both parties being single.
I know. It’s terrible. It’s happened to me and it was terrible then and I still did the same thing and it was – spoiler alert – terrible(ish).
I met Lucky’s friend, Marmaduke (nice guy, but just kinda reminds me of a big, goofy dog), about a week after meeting Lucky and have seen him a few times since. Marmaduke was on Match as well. Marmaduke probably would have turned up in my search eventually if Lucky hadn’t snatched me up first and thank goodness he did…not because Marmaduke is awful, but because I’m totally gone for Lucky at this point and feel the need to sneak in reference to that as often as I can. Feel free to grab a vom bag.
Being that Marmaduke is on Match, he’s obviously looking. He’s got an ex-girlfriend story, he’s got a rebound girl story, but he’s looking for what’s next. He assumes Lucky’s great catch knows some other pretty great catches and has been bugging me and Lucky to meet some of my friends for a while.
The thing is, I do know some great catches, but a lot of them are taken because they’re so great (and because we’re getting old and that’s what happens when you’re old), but my mind went quickly to a girl I’ve clicked with in the past few months at Meetup events so when Marmaduke asked again last weekend, I set up a little double with the henceforth called Sally.
Sally also has an ex-boyfriend story and we’ve spent a lot of time commiserating about the dating scene. She’s said she’s content being single, but was open to the experience of going out with a new guy.
It really wasn’t one of those oh my gosh, you have to meet so-and-so because you have so much in common things. I wouldn’t have even connected the dots if he didn’t specifically ask to meet a girlfriend of mine, but he did so Lucky showed Marm Sally’s Facebook and I showed Sally Marm’s Match profile (because he doesn’t have a Facebook, oh my gosh what is wrong with this guy?) and all systems were still go and we set up a casual drinks and apps date on Saturday night.
I personally would have been shy and uncomfortable in the situation, but Sally jumped right in and seemed to get along great with both Lucky and Marmaduke. We found out that Sally and Marmaduke did in fact have some things in common and they seemed relatively interested, or at least like they were having a good time.
The quick debriefs while one of them or the other went to the restroom were not overwhelming, but favorable, so I was a little surprised when he didn’t close the deal at the end of the night (as in phone number, nothing more, pervs).
The next day, the boys went out golfing and I got this text from Lucky: Marmaduke is not into Sally at all.
Hmm. I found out later it wasn’t anything in particular, okay maybe the excessive amount she had to drink, but mostly no real click and that’s fine. I don’t feel too bad about the set up because I kind of let them both know it was more about their single status and getting out and having fun than about actually believing they would match well.
I haven’t heard from Sally and have no clue how she felt about the evening once she had time to process it. I feel a little guilty for not following up with her, but I got such immediate feedback from Marm that asking her if she liked him seemed irrelevant.
“Oh, you liked him? Too bad because he was not into you. At all.”
I thought the at all was a little harsh.
So, while I’d love to embrace my inner Patti Stanger, I’m only doing it from now on if I actually see a potential connection between two people. Until then, I’m hoping this failure holds off Marmaduke for a bit if not for good. If he’s still chomping at the bit, my new plan is to do a group introduction with way less pressure so he can pick his own!