Can we all agree that it’s tacky to talk about money? Well, except on a blog where, thank the Lord, we can say anything we want! But, you know, in like, real life, I try to avoid it. I am actually getting better at saying no to things that are unnecessary drains on my bank account without actually giving that as the reason.
I partially do that by keeping myself busy with free events. I mean, I guess I could lie about having something else going on, but it’s just as good to actually have something else going on, then I’m not lying (I’m not that great of a liar), not bored and less likely to give in out of boredom.
Just this month, I’m taking free yoga classes, celebrating the birthday of a trendy ice cream shop with free ice cream, going to see a movie with free passes, going to a free bikes for dummies clinic, volunteering, donating blood and participating in a free running event at a local running store. I kinda have a knack for finding free shit and get a kick out of it. I don’t want financial responsibility to keep me locked inside my apartment.
However, when someone invites me to something a few months away and then makes the date flexible to my schedule, it’s a little harder to be tactful in my response.
MOH to bridesmaids: “Hey, can we move the bridal shower to this Sunday in September instead of the Saturday we had talked about before?”
My first response: “I most likely won’t make it unfortunately.”
MOH: “Oh, no! If we kept it on Saturday would you be able to make it?”
My second response: “What I meant is, I most likely can’t make it either way. Don’t plan around me, just do what works for everyone else and I’ll make it if I can!”
MOH: “Is there a weekend you can make it?”
My third response (I may or may not have actually said some – or all – of this): “Listen lady, I’m not going to clean out my bank account for a shower. It’s not a drive across town for me. Maybe if I get a second job or a raise between now and then and can’t find anything better to spend my money on, like, food or bills or things that I want to do, I’ll fly out to have a tea party with old ladies. Do you understand what I’m saying now?”
And she did.
I was kind of proud of myself for not including “if I find a sugar daddy” in the list of ways I’d be able to go to the shower.
My freebie-seeking college kid lifestyle may not be the most luxurious life, but it’s the life I can afford on my own right now.