I happen to be adorable and innocent. I use words like lovely and delight and precious. I don’t interrupt. Sometimes I’m too
polite shy to even ask for the restroom. I wear dresses. I wear cardigans. I’d say it’s all a farce, meant to throw people off. But it’s not. That’s who I am.
And so is this:
I wrote a friend an email the other day and I used the word bang. Actually, it was in the subject and she wrote her response and then wrote me again to say, “PS, I loved the subject of that message, haha.” Don’tjudgeus.
Anyway, I think it’s catching on. Please enjoy:
My last two boyfriends used the word bang a lot (among other things to describe the act, not all of which were completely crude) and at first I was a little put off. The sheltered princess in me came out, my eyes widened and I thought, “hmm, he just said THAT.”
Then I kinda started to like it and I have apparently added it to my list of words I like simply because they’re a little crude.
I would now like to teach you how to be crude and still be cute. It’s all in the delivery. Say the crude words like you own them and you will. Say them and laugh like you did when you were nine and anyone said, “do it” or look around for your mom to scold you and you don’t own it and your crude word privileges will be taken away. Also, it helps if you’re wearing a cardigan.
My mom’s favorite thing to say when she heard her 13- and 14-year-old students swear was, “why would you let something so ugly come out of such a pretty face?” As an English teacher, she thought there were plenty of other words to express yourself without having to use swear words, curse words, BAD words or words that are just kinda crude.
Her dad (my grandpa, come on, keep up, here) was named Richard and went by Dick. I’m not sure when I discussed peni (yes, the plural for penis) with her, but she was not a fan of that slang word either. And pissed. She hated when we used pissed. To be honest, I think it kinda pissed her off – not that she would have said so.
But even she has even learned to accept my inclination toward a vocabulary that would make a sailor blush. I’m more a believer in that words are just words. Yes, there’s a time and place and I do have a censor button, but I don’t think saying bang or even singing and finding humor in The Bang Bang Song changes who I am and my mom realizes that if an occassional f-bomb is the worst thing about me, she did a pretty good job.
What do you do that people don’t necessarily expect?
What do you call that “special hug that two adults who love each other very much” share?