Please excuse me while I talk about how gorgeous I am (even more so than I would normally).
On my way to work this morning I caught the DJs talking about a recent study saying that relationships in which the woman is more attractive than the man are “doomed.”
My first reaction was, no, that’s not true. Relationships, for women, are emotional and if they found the man they trust and love, they will stick with him, regardless of whether she could “do better.” Once pictures of me and Rebel hit Facebook, I heard from a college girlfriend who told me I could do better, but I explained to her that he was nice to me and I enjoyed his company.
I started thinking about some of the things I’ve heard from men I’ve dated recently. TGISWOTSD told me I’d end up with someone better looking than him. Mr. No Name asked me if I had low self-esteem because of what I had told him was my type – tall, bigger, “husky” even, a little rough around the edges. I love me a manly man.
I got closure on my last serious relationship when I remembered something he had said to me early on. He told me that I could go out any night of the week and find a man to go home with. I was really attracted to that boyfriend and completely enchanted during our high highs (being two Leos meant we also had low lows) and going out to find someone else to sleep with was nowhere on my mind.
I thought it was just a nice way of him saying he thought I was hot and he felt lucky to be with me. After a lot of jealous fights and breakups, I realized that’s not what he meant. He meant he actually thought I WOULD do that. That insecurity was his problem, not mine, so I realized I couldn’t have done anything else about it.
But, when I started to think about that side of aesthetically unbalanced relationships, I can see where the study makes sense. With two emotionally healthy individuals, I don’t think an imbalance would make a difference, but if insecurity comes into play, perhaps doomed is accurate.
Either way, since my friend’s comment about Rebel, I’m making a point to go after men who are more on my level, which is especially easy at the buffet that is online dating. I’ve done the “personality cute” guys, now it’s time to step it up to “I want to bang them 24/7” guys.